15 Must Use Principles to Make New Friends and Grow Your Network

“Every man I meet is my superior in some ways, in that I learn from him.”

— Ralph Waldo Emerson

Before I get into the principles, you must know that I simply learned this from a great book that I got my hands on when I was 19.

I am 23 years old now, and I have reread this book 3 times now. So what I learned has been reinforced through my own personal experiences which I highly suggest for you to do too, once you read these principles.

The principles below are from the (what I believe is the one of the greatest) charisma book:

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

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This book has been used so much that you can see from my the photo below that I brought it everywhere and referred back to it religiously

I beat the crap out of this book. I took it everywhere and read it on the Subways of NYC.

Once you read this book once, be sure to read it again twice taking notes and write notes again after reading it the third time.

These 15 Principles CAN..

• help you grow your network
• make some new close friends
• have awesome adventures
• meet new people to share passions and work with

15 Principles to Make New Friends and Grow Your Network:

1. Smile.
2. Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain.
3. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
4. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
5. Become genuinely interested in other people.
6. A person’s name is candy to their ears.
7. Be a good listener… Encourage others to talk about themselves.
8. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
9. People love the desire of feeling a sense of self-worth, tell them sincerely how they are important to you and reinforce how they are important to others
10. Admire the person by using the phrase, “What is about him/her that I can honestly admire?”
11. In conversation, be genuinely interested in their interests, and ask them to “tell you more please.”
12. LIVE by these two words, Appreciation and Encouragement.
13. Smile on a phone call, it exudes in your voice.
14. Follow my “Getting to Know a New Acquaintance Formula” AKA The FORD method + 2 steps → NOW I CALL IT…. The “FFORDZ” method

The Getting to Know a New Acquintance Formula (FFORDZ method):

F for First and Last Name

F for Family and Friends (add questions about mutual friends, acquaintances, and strangers)

O for Occupation

R for Recreation

D for Dreams and Goals

Z for zZzZz don’t make the other person fall asleep (speak passionately and smooth)

The Ffordz Method in Details:

• Get the person’s full name (first and last)
• Get to know some facts about who he/she likes to spend time with… Family, Friends, Mutual Friends, Acquaintances, Strangers(*has random nights at clubs*)
• Get to know some facts about what he/she does for a living or at the moment… Job, Business, School?
• Get to know what are some passions and hobbies this person is into right now.
• Get to know the dreams and goals are of this person.
• Talk PASSIONATELY with feelings about interesting facts & passions and SMOOTHLY about the person’s facts (can be very sensitive sometimes)

15. Make them experience life with you by making small “YES” investments.

Have them answer easy questions that you’ll know they will say yes so that you can build rapport.

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I am so sure this SAVED you plenty of time on reading the principles of How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.

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Kind regards,
Mikael